“Hi, is this Tina? This is Joan, Timmy's mother. I know we've never spoken before but I wanted to know if I could have a few minutes of your time?”
Tina was taken aback at getting a phone call from a total stranger, even if it was the mother of the man she broke up with yesterday.
Tina: “No problem, how can I help you?”
Timmy’s mother: “First, Timmy has no idea I’m making this call. He told me you broke up with him last night and he called me extremely upset about it.
I know my son better than anybody and I have never ever seen him upset about a woman. He wasn't even upset when he got divorced. So apparently you're something special to my son and I didn't want to have him lose this special thing without making a phone call.
He wouldn't really tell me what happened so I snuck a look at his phone and got your number when I went over there last night to console him.
I haven’t seen him cry since our dog died when he was 9 years old.
Can you tell me what happened or what he did? Are you sure there's no way to get past it?”
Tina: “Well it's extremely personal information about him, I don’t know if I should share it. We got to talking about our prior romantic history and your son was extremely open about the number of women that he had been with in the past.
I don't want to say the exact number but it was definitely in the triple digits if not the quadruple digits.”
Timmy’s mother: “Yes, from the moment that Timmy discovered girls at 13 years old, they have been attracted to him like a magnet.
Even in high school he was sneaking girls in his bedroom window, fellow students, teachers, neighbors and women from the surrounding towns. He had to start making appointments.
And when I put him on the second floor of the house to avoid this, he just rigged a ladder for them to use to get in. He's very industrious as you know!
So yes, he's attracted to women and women are very attracted to him. Once he started making money it only got worse. Women swarmed him like the paparazzi.
So isn't this all a good thing?”
Tina thought for a moment and was trying to understand what bothered her so much about his number of romantic partners.
She said: “To be honest I'm not really sure why this is bothering me.”
So Timmy's mom said: “Well maybe it shouldn't bother you? Again I've never seen him this way. I've never really seen him talk about a woman the way he talks about you.
Tina: “Maybe I think someone so promiscuous could never be true to one person for very long?”
Timmy’s mother, ignoring that last good point from Tina, continued:
“So you're attracted to him?” Tina answered Yes. “And any physical interaction you've had with him has been pleasurable for you or has it been a letdown?”
Tina: “He's the best lover I've ever had in my life.”
Timmy’s mother: “Well this sounds like a recipe for success!
You love my son because he's a strong traditional masculine man with money, and today there's a dearth of them. That’s why so many women are attracted to men like my son.
So it seems like, if you reconsider, maybe you can have this one great man all to yourself?
What are your other options? How many men like my son do you have courting you right now or have ever courted you?
Maybe this stems from an insecurity in you?
You’re wondering if you are enough to keep him satisfied.
All other women are in his past. It can be overwhelming thinking of the thousands of other women my son has slept with, but he doesn’t remember any of them. He has only thought of you since he met you two months ago.
Yes, my son goes through women quickly. But, he's looking for someone who stops him in his tracks and makes him want to be monogamous and to commit 150%. I know my son better than anybody and all I can tell you is that he's never talked about anyone the way he talks about you, not even his ex-wife.”
Tina: “It just seems like he's a gigolo.”
Timmy's mother: “He's not sleeping with any of these women now! He used to be a gigolo. That's how to think about it. He's just looking for the one substantial woman that he can commit to. I have waited decades for this moment for him. I think Tina, you are the moment we have all been waiting for.
I know that he can make one woman happy the rest of her life. He's a wonderful man and he deserves to be happy. I know he is not happy living the single lifestyle. I've never met you before but just by how he describes you, I know you'd be wonderful for him and him for you. You would be a wonderful part of our family. He was finally happy.
And all of the characteristics about him that you like and that most women like is what makes women chase him in the first place.
So you can’t have one without the other. You can't have a man like my son in the top 1% of every category and expect that he's been chaste waiting for the right woman to come along.
For the longest time he never thought he would meet you.
And now he's finally met you and you don't want to see him after talking for just 2 months.
Imagine how disillusioned he is right now.
One thing a mother can see is when her son is in love. And I've never seen him in love before, even when he was married.
And please keep this call between us because if he found out he would be extremely embarrassed that his mother had to call and do a sales pitch about him to a girl that didn't want to talk to him anymore!
So do some soul searching and try to figure out why this is bothering you so much. And if it comes down to something inside of you that is causing this then maybe try to ignore it or work around it because life is short and finding a romantic partner is extremely difficult today.
You have unlocked parts of his heart and soul he didn't know existed.
The most important question for you is: Do you want another woman to have him?”
Timmy’s mom then ended the call.
Tina thought long and hard and at the end of her work day, she gave Timmy a call.
“Hey Tina, I didn't expect to hear from you? How is your day?”
Tina: “Do you think that your feelings for me would make you change your entire life and how you've been dating forever? A man who has such an insatiable appetite for women, might find it hard to be satisfied with just one? Does that make sense?”
Timmy: “Tina, that makes perfect sense. But, you are the woman I have dreamed about finding. I have never missed a woman until I met you. That's all I can say. All I've been thinking about since you broke up with me is trying to find a way to get you back. You are the only woman I remember making love to. You are the only woman I have ever wanted to feel my love in everyway.
After we met, all other women disappeared.
I don’t know what will happen, but I have been waiting to find someone I want to give myself to. I would never do anything behind your back and I would do everything I can to keep us together through good times and bad times.
I have been sick not being able to talk to you and to know how you are. I spent the entire day in bed.
I wrote a poem for you. Can I read it to you?”
Tina suddenly lost her breath and her mouth went dry. This was just too much. He writes poetry?
She said: “Sure, why not?” and it came out like sawdust.
He said: “It’s called Before Her / After Her
Before her, I thought my heart was open to the world
And that I felt every emotion a man could feel
After her, I realized my soul had been asleep in a tight chrysalis
And what I thought were feelings were only frozen shadows
Before her, I felt that I had made love to women
And shared my entire romantic essence when I became one with them.
After her, I realized I had never made love before
And I finally learned what falling in love and making love meant.
Before her, I thought I was fully alive,
And that I was seeing the world in three dimensions and in all possible colors
After her, I felt as if I was newly born
And ready to experience the real world innocently with her
Before her, I treasured my solitary and ritualistic life,
And felt intruded upon when a woman came too close
After her, being apart from her, for even a moment
Brought on the greatest despair and anxiety
Before her, I thought I was enjoying the moments of my life
And savoring the present alone
After her, I wanted moments together to last forever and for time to stop
And time spent alone was a barren place devoid of joy
Before her, my heart was encased in a dark tomb
And many women clawed and struggled to reach it, but none came close to it.
After her, my heart burst out of my chest and into her hands
As if it had found its way back home.
Timmy said: “I added this line before bed last night.”
When she left me, my heart reentered its tomb, and my life's chrysalis tightly encased and mummified me once again
And I returned to what I now know was not living."
Tina said, in her sawdusty voice: “uhm, I will be right over.”
